Dear Harlan: I am in a serious
relationship with a man I love. Lately, my boyfriend has not wanted to
have sex or "play." I didn't really think anything of it until I logged
on to his computer and all of his recent open tabs were porn. Is this
something I should be worried about?- Confused
Dear Harlan: You often encourage
women to chase after men. I thought girls aren't supposed to chase guys?
It's not something I'm comfortable doing. I'm traditional and feel a
man should be the one to make the first move. Chasing? No thanks.- Not Chasing
Dear Harlan: A couple of weeks ago,
my roommate asked to borrow an outfit to wear out to a party on Friday
night, and being the nice person that I am, I let her. Saturday morning,
she handed me back my clothes, and they reeked of alcohol and vomit.
Dear Harlan: I have been dating my
boyfriend for about two weeks. I have known him since middle school, but
we barely talked back then. About three months ago, we started hanging
out and fooling around.
Dear Harlan: Why do guys want you to
chase them? I met a nice guy (or so I thought), we got along well and
even made plans to hang out again. Then he started to play games, like
making plans and not following through, flirting with other women online
and commenting on other women's Facebook posts.
Dear Harlan: I'm a first-year
college student and have a really good guy friend. The problem is that
his girlfriend gets jealous when we hang out together. I've been
friendly with her and told her that I have a boyfriend (whom I love very
much), but she still gets angry when we spend time together.