Dear Harlan: A lot of people say that the best relationships happen by accident and what is meant to be is meant to be. In your expertise, do you find this to be true? Does trying to make it happen make a relationship less natural?

Dear Harlan: Is it immature of me to unfriend an ex on Facebook? We said we'd be friends, and I know that a lot of couples who break up say that to each other, but I don't know if it's something that could ever work.

Dear Harlan: I recently got out of a serious relationship. I'm starting to think about getting back out there again. How long after a breakup should I start dating? I want to make sure I'm giving myself enough time to heal, but I'm not sure how much time I need to get over the past. — Back in the Game

Dear Harlan: I have a hard time finding women who want to date me. I'm a nice guy and frequently get put in the friend zone. Should I change my approach when I meet a girl?

Dear Harlan: I'm a perfectionist. It's been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. Sometimes it serves me well. But more often than not it just makes me nervous and unhappy. How can I know where to draw the line and give my perfectionist ways a break? — Perfectionist

Dear Harlan: I've been dating a wonderful man for about seven months now. We are both in our 20s and our relationship is everything I could ever dream of except for one issue. I can't seem to get over his sexual past...

Dear Harlan: I have been seeing "Rob" for a few weeks, and I like so many things about him — his sense of humor, his kindness, and that he treats me better than any man ever has. But I am not physically attracted to him. His appearance is not well-maintained, and he has terrible teeth.

Dear Harlan: A guy I'm friendly with has been hitting on me a lot. Lately, his attempts to win me over have been borderline creepy. How do I let him know this? I'd like to be friends with him, but I don't want to come off as sounding like a jerk. Is there a nice way to do this? — Not a Jerk

Dear Harlan: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We started dating in high school, and he's in his first year of college, while I'm wrapping up school to move on to university. He's struggled with depression for years, and consistently comes to me for consolation.

Dear Harlan: My boyfriend has told me that should I ever get pregnant and he's responsible for the pregnancy, he will not father my children. Meaning, he will not be part of the child's life. We've been sexually active and continue to be. I love being with him, but I'm just not sure when and if this will be a problem. Any tips?